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Before You React, Assume Innocent Intent
A Simple Practice That Strengthens Connection and Reduces Drama In a previous blog, I wrote about how all events are neutral and only have the meaning we give them. It is our inner Persecutor voice that loves to rush in…
Quieting Your Inner Persecutor
Without Tearing Yourself Apart In my last blog I wrote about how all events are neutral, that they only have the meaning we give them. It is the voice of our inner Persecutor that is often the first to declare its…
All Events Are Neutral:
They Have Only the Meaning You Give Them I haven’t had a brand-new car in over twenty years. Recently, I purchased a sporty SUV in a gorgeous red color that felt bold and alive. About a month after I bought it, I drove…
The Hyper Helper
When Over-Helping Hurts Everyone Of all the three reactive patterns in the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT), it is the hyper helper that most aligns with the Rescuer role. Society lifts the helper as a model citizen:…
My Favorite TED* Tool
How Naming 5 Red Things Can Get You Out of the Drama Triangle Growth in any area of life begins with awareness, and few moments demand our awareness more than the instant we feel ourselves slipping into the Dreaded Drama…
Why Baby Steps Work
How Baby Steps are the Secret to Creating Anything In my last blog I wrote about how to leverage the energy in the gap between what you want and what you actually have. I challenged readers to view this energy as…
Am I Feeling Anxiety or Tension? Wait—What’s the Difference?
If you’ve ever played tug-of-war or stretched a rubber band between two fingers, you’ve felt the unmistakable force that physicists call “tension.” In physics, tension is loosely defined as the pulling or stretching…
Trusting the Struggle
Even When It's Super Annoying If you’re alive today, it’s likely that you’re struggling in some way. Never mind the global wars, wildfires—OMG, the list of struggles is so long! But today I’m writing about personal,…
TED* Guiding Principles to Repurpose Global Stress and Uncertainty
Living Your Creator Essence in Time of Turmoil By Donna ZajoncThese times of global unrest and uncertainty won’t last forever, even though it might feel that way if you spend a lot of time watching the news. We are…