Activating Your Inner Freedom
The month of July hosts several Independence Day celebrations around the world. July 1st is Canada’s Independence Day and, in the US, “4th of July” is a celebration of the adoption of the Declaration of Independence, asserting that we were a free nation.
Global disruption is showing the world that freedom exists, or doesn’t exist, on many levels. To speak without hindrance, to think and live without imprisonment, is not universally experienced and could be the subject of many blogs. But what we write about this week, is your own inner freedom.
Freedom starts within you and your relationship with your own thoughts and internal conversations. You will never be truly free unless you are free from your own inner tyranny and self-persecution.
In our education and training workshops, it surprises participants to learn that the three roles that make up the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer operate inside of them (we call this your inner DDT), as well as how they relate to their outside world.
Many people do not realize their inner Persecutor is running in the background of their consciousness, influencing their thoughts about themselves and the world. If your personal thoughts are self-critical, your peace of mind and emotional well-being will suffer, and you may never experience true personal freedom.
It is important to understand how this mechanism operates in you, so you are more aware that your thoughts do not happen to you. Rather, they are created within you and by you.
When you understand this insight and apply the principle in your life, it is a game changer. It calls for you to become highly selective about the thoughts you choose to think.
Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have. And how you relate to yourself will have a big impact on how you relate to others. Fully embracing that you are always at choice is where personal freedom lives.
The more you understand that your inner Persecuting voice is really only one of many voices, it will loosen its grip. Just because a thought pops into your head, doesn’t mean you have to believe it, give it any power, or act on it. It is only when you invest your energy in self-criticism does a thought grow and persecute you.
We all have self-critical and demeaning thoughts from time to time. The secret is to view them as passing chatter and just one of many thoughts you can focus on. Just a few deep breaths or a short conscious walk can help you quiet the voice. Once you do this, you can calm yourself and realize that you are always at choice about what you believe and act upon.
Personal freedom is choosing what thoughts to give your attention and power to. Just as you have the DDT roles operating in you, you also have the TED* (*Empowerment Dynamic)® roles of Creator, Challenger, and Coach operating in the way you relate to yourself and others.
As you become more self-observant and aware, you can choose your response to life’s challenges. Taking responsibility for your choices will reinforce and grow the Creator in you and will enable you to act upon the freedom to create in your own life.
Your inner Creator essence helps to clear your mind and brings well-being and freedom to your life. You will feel a lot more positive energy and joy when you see that freedom does lie within. You may still feel bound by limiting thoughts from time to time, but you don’t have to give that voice any power, liberating yourself and embracing your inner freedom.