The month of July hosts over 25 Independence Day celebrations around the world. July 1st was Canada’s Independence Day and here in the US, July 4th was our Independence Day in the United States. While leaders strive to bring freedom to the outside world, it is freedom in your personal world that we write about this week. Freedom starts […]
Continuous learning is an essential quality in the life of a Creator. We try and practice that in our own work and lives. A while back, David enrolled in an online class with Brené Brown, well-known author and researcher who has spent decades studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame — all of which help you […]
We were recently on a telephone call with a colleague, talking about a project we are working on together. At the end of the call our colleague said, “I will have the project summary to you by the end of the week.” His voice became stressed as he talked about all he needed to get […]
In last week’s essay, we suggested a specific tip to interrupt your reactive, drama-filled behavior by “Naming 5 Red Things.” That tip was focused on how you can limit your drama. What about being with others when they are having a “drama attack?” What do you do? What do you say? We have several suggestions, but […]
We are often asked, “How do I get out of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT)?” We avoid offering a prescribed answer to that question because each person is unique, and the situations are often too complex. Your neurology and body are designed to constantly be scanning for threats, so it is on the lookout for […]
The Persecutor role in the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) uses control and domination to take charge of a situation. Persecutors may show up in our lives as people, or they may also be conditions (such as a health issue) or situations, (such as a natural disaster). Regardless of the form, the Persecutor dominates the time […]
You don’t call your cell phone selfish for having little juice left in its battery. Instead you immediately find the closest charger. Yet “selfish” is what you may call yourself when you need recharging. Confusing the difference between self-care and being selfish can block your ability to create an essential self-care practice. If you have […]
Many of you may know that I (Donna) am a baseball fan. I grew up playing softball, the only sport available to girls in our small Missouri town when I was growing up. I continue to enjoy the finer points of the game. Last week I watched a relief pitcher on my favorite team, come […]
It is often said that the words and phrases you use are an indication of what you believe about yourself. By listening to your language, you can increase your awareness of unconscious patterns of speech that may keep you stuck in the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). The good news is that once you hear your […]
We have been putting off writing this newsletter. Okay, that is supposed to be a joke and there are plenty of procrastination jokes out there. Did you hear about the procrastinators club that never met? Or about the author who planned a book on procrastination but never wrote it? For those who routinely procrastinate, the […]