We’ve all experienced situations where we have strong expectations and attachments to how things should be. When we get attached, it often means we’ve put blinders on and get stuck into seeing only one way things could be. Strong expectations, when not fulfilled, can set you up to feel like a Victim when events unfold […]
The inner-Persecutor is that voice in your head that is often harsh, condescending, and even rude. For some people, their inner-Persecutor is a jarring and constant chatter, for others, it babbles in the background and is not always obvious, but its oppressive judgments may still be felt. Even though it may not appear so, the […]
Whether at the office or home, it is common to prematurely rush into problem solving mode rather than simply listening to the other person as they share their feelings. Communication experts describe several reasons why it is easier to rush to problem solving. They are: Being intellectual and rational is highly valued in the Western […]
Do you experience drama in your work and life? Do turf wars or ineffective team dynamics exist in your organization? We all experience some level of drama. It is part of the human experience. The costs of drama — both at work and personally — can be tremendous, as described in David’s new book, 3 […]
Gratitude is often called a “relationship emotion” because it exists in relationship to others, yourself, or what you are appreciating. It is a complex emotion that doesn’t stand alone because it seeds additional positive emotions. When you are in a state of gratitude you become more expansive, open, feel lighter, happier, and more content. In this state, […]
A few weeks ago, we heard from a longtime friend and colleague who has used the Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® and 3 Vital Questions® frameworks for many years in her work as a public leader in her community. We are delighted to share the following story she shared with us as an example […]
One of the easiest ways to shift out of drama is to look for more mind-blowing, awe-inspiring experiences each day. The spine-tingling feeling of awe connects us with something bigger than ourselves. When we’re in the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) our focus is on “me” rather than “we” and the world around us. It is […]
We’ve noticed that when we are in a hurry, it’s easy to go reactive and get pulled into the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). There is something about rushing and being in a hurry that triggers a reactive me-centered state of mind. We came across an experiment that was done in the 1970s by John Darley and […]
There’s a story about a man who calls a good friend to talk about his problems. After talking at length about his complaints, he stops and asks his friend, “Are you still listening to me? You haven’t said a word.” His friend says, “I’m trying not to. If you keep going, I might start believing […]
When driving an unfamiliar car, one of the first things you may do is adjust the mirrors, looking for the car’s blind spots. Like a car, your mind also has blind spots. The mind’s blind spots are a way of narrowing what you can take in. You can’t notice everything or you would be on […]