Next week is the Thanksgiving holiday in the United States. Thanksgiving is our favorite holiday because it celebrates an attitude of gratitude—one of the most important practices to cultivate as a Creator. Giving thanks and feeling grateful is a fundamental principle in all the great cultures and religions. You are supposed to feel grateful, right? […]
If you stop and listen, it is amazing how many voices we all have in our heads. It’s part of the perplexing human experience and sometimes it is confusing to know which voice to listen to. We have discovered that our Victim voice tends to “yell” while our Creator voice “whispers.” The Dreaded Drama Triangle […]
Great questions trigger ideas and powerful new insights. Depending on the tone and intention behind your questions, they can also come across as condescending and manipulative. What is the secret behind an empowered question that can unlock creativity and invite others to open-up and share? You may be asking zillions of questions and have bits […]
Have you ever stepped back and reflected on the tone and quality of the conversations you have with coworkers, friends, or family members? It’s amazing how much time and effort goes into talking about what’s wrong with this, or what we don’t like about that. We call such interactions the “Kinship of Victimhood.” One definition […]
Do you feel uncomfortable when conflicts arise? If so, you may avoid a conflict like the plague and retreat, feeling powerless and victimized by the situation which, of course, places you in the Victim role of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). A second way to deal with conflict may be your desire to control the […]
We are being inundated today with information and a life at lightning-speed unlike any time in history. This is a big deal because our bodies and minds were not built for this complexity so, as a species, we humans are becoming more hyperactive and hypersensitive. We are training ourselves to “loathe the moment” and fill […]
There is a story about two young twin brothers who walked into a barn with their grandfather. One boy complained about the foul-smelling manure and ran out of the barn while complaining about getting manure on his shoes. The other boy raced through the barn with excitement and yelled to his grandfather, “With all this […]
Solving a problem works really well when you need specific information. If your computer isn’t working, you need concrete information about how to get it working again. If you have the wrong address for an appointment, that’s a problem. You need the correct address. Life and relationships are far more complex. When it comes to […]
Drama is something that everyone experiences. Have you ever wondered why that is? Let’s start at the beginning and ask: How does our drama begin in the first place? The simple, yet complex, explanation is that all of us as human beings learn and develop strategies to get what we want as children and to […]
A few months ago, Donna returned from the grocery store with several bags of groceries in her car. David came out of their home to help her with the bags and she immediately declared, “Nope, I don’t need any help.” David went back into the house. Over the next few days Donna reflected upon why […]