One of the most powerful gifts you can give yourself this holiday season is to take purposeful pauses throughout your day. When people first learn about the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT), they tell us how the DDT perfectly describes them when they are stuck in old, reactive habits. Immediately they ask, “How do I stop […]
This week is the Thanksgiving holiday in the United States. Thanksgiving is our favorite holiday because it celebrates an attitude of gratitude—one of the most important practices to cultivate as a Creator. During the global pandemic, many people reported that accessing gratitude helped them persevere during really difficult times. In a way, so many people […]
At first thought it may seem like a relatively unimportant idea to add more beauty to your life. However, from the point of reference that you want to reduce drama and troublesome emotions, it can make a world of difference. And most importantly, intentionally putting yourself in the presence of beauty can reduce the disruption […]
You learn from experience. Right? From the lessons of experience, you form and derive assumptions upon which you base your approaches to working and interacting with others. Assumptions can be extremely useful. They provide guidance on how to respond to situations based upon previous experiences so there’s no reason to reinvent the wheel. Assumptions are […]
Many of you may know that I (Donna) am a baseball fan. As a young girl, I played softball, the only sport available to girls in our small Missouri town. I continue to enjoy the finer points of the game. Last week I watched a relief pitcher on my favorite team come into the game […]
The Rescuer role is one of the three roles that make up the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). When in the Rescuer role you feel the strong urge to help others so they don’t suffer or feel bad. In a nutshell, Rescuers are helpers. Of the three roles in the DDT, it is the Rescuer role […]
If you stop and listen, it is amazing how many voices you may hear inside your mind. Becoming aware of these voices is part of the mysterious experience that makes us conscious human beings. It can also be confusing to hear so many inner voices. “Which voice do I listen to?” you may ask. “Which […]
We have found that many people resist embracing the Challenger role in TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® because they view it as risky or scary. “If I am a Challenger, I won’t be liked by my co-workers or family members. I fear they will see me as a Persecutor,” some say. Over the years of offering […]
Last week David facilitated two days of leadership programs for a financial services company. During the retreat, there was rich conversation about TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® and the 3 Vital Questions® — including the idea of creating outcomes via baby steps. Afterward, he received this email from one of the bank executives who is responsible […]
A good friend and colleague recently experienced a sudden and traumatic professional change. Last year she was recruited by the owners of a company to lead a new initiative. The new career direction was an answer to her prayers to work with leaders and an organization that aligned with her deep sense of purpose. After […]