We humans are masterful at working with the tension that leads to creating amazing new ideas and breakthrough innovations. We are also very good at creating our own tension and stress that leads to overwhelm. In both situations, this tension leads to either action—or reaction. A simple, yet profound way to take action, even in […]
If there is one core principle in which the Power of TED* work rests, it is this: You always have a choice about how you respond to life events. You may not always like your choices, and your range of choices may be narrow. However, you always have a choice. You can choose to react […]
You know what drama feels like. It’s a muddled mess of difficult energy and usually means you are in an entangled relationship with someone else, a situation, or the way you are relating to yourself. When you slip into this darker drama energy, it’s rare to find any benefit to living in the Dreaded Drama […]
In last week’s “TED* Works!®” we wrote about the all-important question, “What do you want?” as the key question to ask to shift out of the problem-focused, anxiety-based, and reactive Victim Orientation. Once you, your team, or family is entrenched in focusing on what you don’t like and don’t want, it explains why getting stuck […]
What do you want? This is often a question that is more easily asked than answered. If you are like most people, you know what you don’t want, more than what you do want. When an individual or team is first asked this question in our workshops, it is not unusual to get a “deer […]
There’s a fine line between being supportive and being overly helpful. Once you slip into over-helpful mode, you don’t have a choice to act. Your desire to be helpful becomes a craving, maybe even a compulsion. In this fast-paced world many of us “over-do” and become vigilant about what might go wrong. As soon as […]
“You are always at choice.” This is a declaration we make regularly in workshops and presentations. It is also a statement that many people often disagree with. Most of their push backs begin with this phrase: “But what about…” It is sometimes very hard to remember that no matter the outside circumstances, you are still […]
When David first learned about the Karpman Drama Triangle and its roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer many years ago, he knew he had lived much of his life from a Victim point of view. One day in quiet time he asked: “Okay God. I don’t want to live my life as a Victim anymore, […]
Goal setting is a valuable skill that helps you stay on track and get things done. They are essential for completing immediate tasks, such as clearing your office or learning a new computer skill. They can increase your energy to get things done. But goal-setting can also work against you. For example, when you set […]
As we say good-bye to 2020 and welcome 2021, we want to share our 3 most popular essays of the year. Thank you for following along on the journey as we all learn how to grow and create together. To the Creator in you and may your 2021 be awesome! Layers of Protection Risky and […]