Two weeks ago, we wrote about the Victim-to-Creator shift and last week the Persecutor-to-Challenger shift. This week we describe the Coach role, which is the positive alternative, or antidote, to the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) role of Rescuer. Together, the three TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® roles represent the best of who you are as a human being. A […]
Of the three TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® roles of Creator, Challenger, and Coach, we receive the most questions about the shift from the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) role of Persecutor to Challenger. We humans have a strong tendency to judge others and be critical of ourselves. While being a Persecutor to others may be what […]
When David first learned about the Karpman Drama Triangle and its roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer many years ago, he knew he had lived much of his life from a Victim point of view. One day in quiet time he asked: “Okay God. I don’t want to live my life as a Victim anymore, […]
Yes, laughing matters, and is probably more important than ever given the challenges in the world. If you are paying attention to the news most events are not laughing matters! A deep belly laugh, though, is a valuable way to navigate through these troubling times. Laughing can help you lighten up when you may feel […]
When we hold multi-day workshops, at the end of the first day we ask participants to “stay tuned” to their experiences that night and simply notice how the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and its roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer may show up. The next morning, we invite participants to share what they noticed. The […]
Goal setting is a valuable skill that helps you stay on track and get things done. They are essential for completing immediate tasks, such as clearing your office or learning a new computer skill. They can increase your energy to get things done. But goal-setting can also work against you. For example, when you set […]
As we say good-bye to 2020 and welcome 2021, we want to share our 3 most popular essays of the year. Thank you for following along on the journey as we all learn how to grow and create together. To the Creator in you and may your 2021 be awesome! Layers of Protection Risky and […]
It’s the season of celebration and gift giving in many traditions around the world. Perhaps one of the most empowering gifts you can give to yourself and others is that of compassion. Compassion is a mindful and felt sense of empathy and concern for others—and for yourself. The work of Dr. Gabor Maté has taught […]
You don’t have to look very hard these days to notice negative news around the world. It’s not just the news media or public leaders that are using harsh words toward one another. It’s also become the norm in some social media circles to pass on gossip, misinformation, and unforgiving pictures about someone they have […]
Since first publishing The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) we have heard instances of how some people are using the framework in less than desirable ways. Here are a few examples: “After attending your workshop, I told my team they act like Victims and should stop their complaining and get their work done on […]