When you hit your breaking point, you may hurt the feelings of others and may say something you regret later, making a difficult situation even worse. When you reach that moment, chances are you justify what you said or did because that is part of what happens when you reach your breaking point. It is […]
Lately we have heard stories of how families are exploring together the TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® book to prompt authentic and powerful conversations at home. Since the book is written in a fable format and easy to read, the lifelong lessons of learning to be a Creator are also available to younger folks. The TED* […]
Earlier this week, David was on a Zoom session with a group of individuals who have read The Power of TED*. During introductions, several participants shared that they want to take the TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® work to youth and into schools. At the same time, many, many parents are faced with the reality of […]
High drama means high emotions. And when your emotions hijack you, they take over your ability to express yourself and make good decisions. Have you ever been so upset that you feel like you are “losing your mind?” With all that is happening in the world today, many express this in various ways. Fear and uncertainty […]
In the 1960’s Dr. Stephen Karpman first described the three reactive and problem-focused roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer that he named the Drama Triangle. One role—that of Rescuer—is especially familiar to us. We often say that we are both “recovering Rescuers.” The Rescuer role is the “pain reliever” in the Drama Triangle and focuses […]
Over the years, readers have shared their stories with us about how they are applying TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® in their lives. This week we begin an exciting new feature to our weekly blog. We are capturing these stories on video and will be sharing them with you from time to time. In the brief […]
At the core of the TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® work is love and appreciation for others. We first must see others as Creators, whether they act like it or not, before we can be in an empowering, drama-free relationship. Fear, however, is the emotion that drives all 3 roles of Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor that […]
“What can I, as an individual, do to make a difference to positively impact the huge issues we are facing?” This is a question we hear in many conversations and meetings as we all face the realities of the pandemic, social inequities, systemic racism, and global warming – to name a few. The list is long, […]
Growing up, we both heard these phrases from our parents: “Be nice, Donna, and get along.” David heard “you have to learn to share,” and “don’t fight” was a favorite. Our parents did the best they could, and what many of these phrases taught us was to be overly agreeable. We humans are drawn to […]
“Once I reach my goal, I will be happy,” is what most people say when they set a goal. What is problematic about this approach to life is the idea that your happiness is somewhere in the future and not available to you now. Goals, by their nature, fool you into thinking that outside circumstances […]
