It’s the season of celebration and gift giving in many traditions around the world. Perhaps one of the most empowering gifts you can give to yourself and others is that of compassion. Compassion is a mindful and felt sense of empathy and concern for others—and for yourself. The work of Dr. Gabor Maté has taught […]
You don’t have to look very hard these days to notice negative news around the world. It’s not just the news media or public leaders that are using harsh words toward one another. It’s also become the norm in some social media circles to pass on gossip, misinformation, and unforgiving pictures about someone they have […]
High drama means high emotions. And when your emotions hijack you, they take over your ability to express yourself and make good decisions. Have you ever been so upset that you feel like you are “losing your mind?” With all that is happening in the world today, many express this in various ways. Fear and uncertainty […]
In the 1960’s Dr. Stephen Karpman first described the three reactive and problem-focused roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer that he named the Drama Triangle. One role—that of Rescuer—is especially familiar to us. We often say that we are both “recovering Rescuers.” The Rescuer role is the “pain reliever” in the Drama Triangle and focuses […]
Over the years, readers have shared their stories with us about how they are applying TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® in their lives. This week we begin an exciting new feature to our weekly blog. We are capturing these stories on video and will be sharing them with you from time to time. In the brief […]
At the core of the TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® work is love and appreciation for others. We first must see others as Creators, whether they act like it or not, before we can be in an empowering, drama-free relationship. Fear, however, is the emotion that drives all 3 roles of Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor that […]
“What can I, as an individual, do to make a difference to positively impact the huge issues we are facing?” This is a question we hear in many conversations and meetings as we all face the realities of the pandemic, social inequities, systemic racism, and global warming – to name a few. The list is long, […]
“Once I reach my goal, I will be happy,” is what most people say when they set a goal. What is problematic about this approach to life is the idea that your happiness is somewhere in the future and not available to you now. Goals, by their nature, fool you into thinking that outside circumstances […]
The month of July hosts several Independence Day celebrations around the world. July 1st was Canada’s Independence Day and the “4th of July” is recognized in the US as the day the states became free and independent from the tyranny of a foreign king. The current global disruption is showing the world that freedom exists, […]
“Power to the People” was an anthem song written by Beatle John Lennon in the early 1970s. Somewhat like today, it was a period of social unrest. But what is “power?” Merriam-Webster has two definitions that are particularly relevant to considering your relationship to power: Possession of control, authority, or influence over others; and The […]
