You know what drama feels like. It’s a muddled mess of difficult energy and usually means you are in an entangled relationship with someone else, a situation, or the way you are relating to yourself. When you slip into this darker drama energy, it’s rare to find any benefit to living in the Dreaded Drama […]
Occasional negative self-talk is normal. And, sometimes being skeptical or critical helps you thoroughly investigate an issue. It is when your internal negative self-talk is a constant habit that it can do harm to yourself and those with whom you live and work. A negative internal dialogue happens when: You constantly think or say what […]
Recovering from the “need-to-please” pattern can be a long journey and is deeply rooted in the Rescuer role of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). When your “go-to” role in the DDT is being the Rescuer, you easily take on being helpful and pleasing to others as a self-identify. Your focus is on the needs of […]
What do you want? This is often a question that is more easily asked than answered. If you are like most people, you know what you don’t want, more than what you do want. When an individual or team is first asked this question in our workshops, it is not unusual to get a “deer […]
Yes, laughing matters, and is probably more important than ever given the challenges in the world. If you are paying attention to the news most events are not laughing matters! A deep belly laugh, though, is a valuable way to navigate through these troubling times. Laughing can help you lighten up when you may feel […]
Learning to shift from a drama-filled life to one of empowerment begins with focusing on outcomes more than problems. However, it is easy to get captivated by problems and drawn deeper into only seeing them and the anxiety they create. David shares a story about working with an executive who had just been promoted to […]
As we say good-bye to 2020 and welcome 2021, we want to share our 3 most popular essays of the year. Thank you for following along on the journey as we all learn how to grow and create together. To the Creator in you and may your 2021 be awesome! Layers of Protection Risky and […]
What do you listen for? When you begin to “listen to how you listen, you may notice a lot of preconceptions and judgmental comments. For example, even if you’re not parenting a teenager, imagine for a moment you say to your teenager: “Why can’t you put that phone down for just one night and spend […]
At the end of a recent workshop, Donna asked each person to share one new habit they are committed to changing. One man said, “I want to stop taking things personally.” Others finished their checkout and the workshop ended. After the workshop, the man’s statement to not take things personally continued to echo in Donna’s […]
When you hit your breaking point, you may hurt the feelings of others and may say something you regret later, making a difficult situation even worse. When you reach that moment, chances are you justify what you said or did because that is part of what happens when you reach your breaking point. It is […]