The Karpman Drama Triangle: How to Avoid Falling Into It!
The Karpman Drama Triangle affirms that there are three habitual roles that people often take in a situation
Dreaded Drama Triangle
The Many Faces of the Persecutor
Earlier this week, I (David) was facilitating a live session with a leadership team who wanted to develop more positive and trusting relationships. As part of our eCourse curriculum, we talked about the three roles of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). When I asked them to describe their perception of the Persecutor role, they used […]
See Everyone as a Creator
The central role of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® is that of a Creator. There are two primary actions of a Creator. The first is owning your power to choose your response to life’s challenges, regardless of the circumstances. The second is taking responsibility to create outcomes. The Creator is your true essence that forms who […]
Making Friends with Your Drama Roles
You know what drama feels like. It’s a muddled mess of difficult energy and usually means you are in an entangled relationship with someone else, a situation, or the way you are relating to yourself. When you slip into this darker drama energy, it’s rare to find any benefit to living in the Dreaded Drama […]
How to Shift Your Negative Self-Talk
Occasional negative self-talk is normal. And, sometimes being skeptical or critical helps you thoroughly investigate an issue. It is when your internal negative self-talk is a constant habit that it can do harm to yourself and those with whom you live and work. A negative internal dialogue happens when: You constantly think or say what […]
Ask First, Tell Second
Do you have a tendency to offer advice or to tell people what you think they should do? This is an easy trap and habit to fall into as a manager or a parent—or life in general. By freely sharing our advice, we are satisfying our ego that wants to feel important and confident that […]
Recovering from the Need-to-Please Pattern
Recovering from the “need-to-please” pattern can be a long journey and is deeply rooted in the Rescuer role of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). When your “go-to” role in the DDT is being the Rescuer, you easily take on being helpful and pleasing to others as a self-identify. Your focus is on the needs of […]
The “Do-Over” Practice
Watching a young toddler play the “peek-a-boo” game is such joy. It’s the laughter and connecting that elicits the giggles each time the toddler yells; “Do it again!” Wouldn’t it be great if you could take a “do-over” moment when you have said something you didn’t mean, or you made a mistake you want to […]
Do You Feel Listened To?
I (Donna) recently had a challenging conversation that helped me realize, again, how important listening skills are. Here is the story: I called an audiologist to have my hearing tested. I have had ringing in my ears for a few years and wanted to have it checked out again. The receptionist eagerly found a time […]
What Do You Want? Part 2
In last week’s “TED* Works!®” we wrote about the all-important question, “What do you want?” as the key question to ask to shift out of the problem-focused, anxiety-based, and reactive Victim Orientation. Once you, your team, or family is entrenched in focusing on what you don’t like and don’t want, it explains why getting stuck […]