Mindfulness has become popular, promoted widely in business magazines, schools, the military, and health care centers, to name just a few places. Mindfulness is based in meditation practices that are thousands of years old, so it’s hardly “new.” So, why has the interest in being mindful grown so much? One reason there is a lot […]
There is a story about a man who calls a good friend to talk about his problems. After talking at length about his complaints, he stops and asks his friend, “Are you still listening to me? You haven’t said a word.” His friend says, “I’m trying not to. If you keep going, I might start […]
As young school children, we are taught to ask the teacher for support and receive feedback to help us learn. That feedback was often in the form of a grade that we interpreted as either good or bad. As adults, giving feedback to one another can evoke a strong defensive reaction. We know this defensive […]
A primary outcome for applying the 3 Vital Questions® and Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® frameworks is supporting you to be the best version of yourself possible. This includes being resourceful, even when life is hard. When difficult things happen, one common approach is to stay overly positive and force yourself to look on […]
We have a friend who complained about the ups and downs and volatility of the stock market in the last few days. He focused on his dream of a larger retirement check, rather than the comfortable retirement he now has. We have another friend who complains about not being able to travel, insisting that she […]
It may sound like a lot to accept the idea of welcoming all your emotions. It’s great to feel happy and joyful, but how about the uncomfortable emotions like anger, sadness, and frustration? For most of us, it is not easy to be comfortable with these heavier emotions. With the pandemic and disruptions everywhere, you […]
One of the faster ways to put yourself into a drama relationship with yourself and others is to pretend you know something when you don’t. If you pretend you know how to fix your computer after it crashes, rather than ask for help from a computer professional, you will only cause yourself frustration. Pretending you […]
When your car is low on gas, you don’t beat on its dashboard and tell it to keep going. You acknowledge it is low on fuel and fill its gas tank (or for an electric car, you recharge it). You don’t call your cell phone selfish for having little juice left in its battery. Instead, […]
What words come to mind when you hear the phrase “people-pleaser?” The title is usually associated with people who are kind and helpful. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines a people-pleasing person as someone who has an emotional need to please others, often at the expense of his or her own needs or desires. In the Dreaded […]
Have you ever experienced someone driving recklessly on the freeway, changing lanes, and almost causing an accident? We have and admit to hoping there’s a highway patrol officer around the bend, ready to turn their siren on and issue a costly speeding ticket. We call our desire to see a police officer stop the careless […]