You learn from experience. Right? From the lessons of experience, you form and derive assumptions upon which you base your approaches to working and interacting with others. Assumptions can be extremely useful. They provide guidance on how to respond to situations based upon previous experiences so there’s no reason to reinvent the wheel. Assumptions are […]
Many of you may know that I (Donna) am a baseball fan. As a young girl, I played softball, the only sport available to girls in our small Missouri town. I continue to enjoy the finer points of the game. Last week I watched a relief pitcher on my favorite team come into the game […]
The Rescuer role is one of the three roles that make up the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). When in the Rescuer role you feel the strong urge to help others so they don’t suffer or feel bad. In a nutshell, Rescuers are helpers. Of the three roles in the DDT, it is the Rescuer role […]
If you stop and listen, it is amazing how many voices you may hear inside your mind. Becoming aware of these voices is part of the mysterious experience that makes us conscious human beings. It can also be confusing to hear so many inner voices. “Which voice do I listen to?” you may ask. “Which […]
We have found that many people resist embracing the Challenger role in TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® because they view it as risky or scary. “If I am a Challenger, I won’t be liked by my co-workers or family members. I fear they will see me as a Persecutor,” some say. Over the years of offering […]
Last week David facilitated two days of leadership programs for a financial services company. During the retreat, there was rich conversation about TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® and the 3 Vital Questions® — including the idea of creating outcomes via baby steps. Afterward, he received this email from one of the bank executives who is responsible […]
A good friend and colleague recently experienced a sudden and traumatic professional change. Last year she was recruited by the owners of a company to lead a new initiative. The new career direction was an answer to her prayers to work with leaders and an organization that aligned with her deep sense of purpose. After […]
Solving a problem works well when you need specific information. If your computer isn’t working, you need concrete information about how to get it working again. If you have the wrong address for an appointment, that’s a problem. You need the correct address. Life and relationships are far more complex, however, than just fixing your […]
Could it be that the secret to being a kinder and gentler person is to simply slow down? A research experiment looked at how rushing and being in a hurry affects how we relate to others in need. The results may astonish you. This valuable study was done by John Darley and C. Daniel Batson […]
Words carry energy. By listening to your language, you can increase your awareness of unconscious speech patterns that may keep you trapped in old and limiting stories about yourself. It matters what you say to yourself and others. Your brain doesn’t know any better because it was designed to believe what you tell it. […]